Death and Jelly Beans

Tuesday, 23 October 2007, 0:57 | Category : Life
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My uncle died last Wednesday. He was 80. I didn’t know until I read his obituary that his middle name was Dee. I do know that the last time I saw him he was in the hospital, and he hated the hospital food – so I went to the gift shop and bought him jelly beans.

None of the family called us right away to tell us that he died. My aunt called on Sunday when she felt up to it – she was in the hospital herself. The funeral is tomorrow (Tuesday). So, being the kind of family that Mom and I are, we drove up to see my aunt and go to the funeral.

Its a funny thing about death. I usually think that it brings families together as they share the memories of their loved one. In this case, its not doing that. The family is still divided over some feud that nobody knows exactly what it is. Its got to be something silly that has just been blown out of proportion. The truth is, I’m not much into funerals. I prefer to remember the person as they were when they were alive. Funerals aren’t for the dead. They’re for the living. Most of the time it seems like its a competition to see who can be the saddest, even when the person who is gone is truly in a better place.

I think I’ll always think of Uncle John when I think of Jelly Beans.

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